I'm looking at almost exactly what you're considering. I won't be able to buy until late next month (fingers crossed), but in the meantime I've been trying to answer these same questions. Here are my perceptions/opinions on these issues.
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Processor: Intel Core i7-3930K (3.2GHz Turbo Mode to 3.8Ghz) (Six Core) (12MB Cache)- is it worth the price point to go for a six core versus the x17's quad core?
Probably not. For gaming, and especially the games you listed, I don't think the CPU is overly taxed. I know for BF3 it really doesn't make a perceptible difference in frame rate. I can see where FPS games would be more GPU centric than a strategy/MMO type game that would rely more on the CPU. I don't know if your listed games are programmed to use that many cores. For my laptop I'll be getting the i7-3820.
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Memory: 16GB DDR3 1866MHz - on the fence here between this and 1600MHz speed ram. Noticeable difference performance wise on games?
In a word, no. Save your money here. You see some small incremental gains in benchmarks, but nothing perceptible during game play.
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Primary Hard Drive: Intel 240GB SSD (520 Series) (SATA 6Gb/s)
- really have no idea how much I should splurge on the HDDs. I've read that putting your OS on an SSD makes a world of difference.
Secondary Hard Drive: 750GB Hybrid 7200RPM with 8GB SSD (SATA 3Gb/s) - again, kinda in the dark on what the second drive should be for setup.
This all depends on how much storage you need. Are you storing video and/or images? These take lots of space. For games, unless you have lots and lots of them you can get away with the 240GB SSD and a 500GB HD.
The SSD is expensive, but you get something for your hard earned greenbacks. Speed. Lots of it. From the benchmarks I've seen you can expect between four to ten times faster performance from the SSD. You will have faster boot up times (my desktop takes about 15 seconds from Win7 logo to ready to use) and faster level/map loading. Once you go with the SSD you'll never look back.
As for the secondary hybrid HD, I'm not sure about it. Sure it will load a bit faster than a straight HD (but slower than a pure SSD), but do you really need it? Typically you load your OS and programs you want fast loading on the SSD and use the secondary HD for storage or games that you don't want or need to load faster. Given that the typical game is about 15GB, you could still load lots of games before you start running into space limitations.
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Video Card(s): 2x SLI (NVIDIA GeForce GTX 675M 2GB) -
Big question on this one. Worried that SLI will melt my laptops mobo
lol. That or, overkill. Can I get by with just 1 GTX675M 2GB and still
devour most gaming software for the next couple years?
I'm not sure you need SLI for your list of games. Sure you'll see higher FPS, but I suspect you'll get high enough FPS to be happy. You might consider getting a single card and upgrading later (it's really easy) if you find you need the extra GPU horses.
As for the heat I'm confident that DS does stress tests to ensure that temperature are within limits. Alex (DS employee and uber-mensch

) can comment better than I on this.
As a side note, be aware that the 675M is a rebranded 580M GPU with minor tweaks. It's based on the previous generation Fermi architecture and not Kepler. As of right now it's one of the most powerful mobile cards out there. I'll be using the 675 SLI for my needs, but I'm hoping that when I buy the Kepler based mobile cards will be available.
If heat is a concern you can get a laptop cooling pad. Amazon has several different models. I'm leaning towards getting one myself. Also you have to keep the dust out of the cooling intakes. Laptops are a bit more sensitive to dust/cooling than typical desktops.
Any way you slice it you're going to have an awesomely powerful laptop!
Edited by BF3Addict - 19 Apr 2012 at 12:57pm